Sad tidings….

My Thanksgiving morning started with a call that a very dear friend had collapsed. Yes I knew this friend was ill, and yes I was aware his prognosis was wasn’t good. These things brought me no comfort, I know they were supposed to, but they didn’t. Last weekend we were very lucky to spend the day with him and I witnessed him sitting back taking in the sight of this massive BBQ he’d started, arranged and supported to benefit the Red Cross. (yes this was typical of him, always stepping up to help, even before he was asked.)He was so proud and I could see this by the set of his face and glimmer in his eyes. We cut up and enjoyed the day, but for some reason he weighed on me even after it was over so my husband and I stayed behind to help clean up. Honestly I don’t enjoy clean up, but I couldn’t bring myself to leave him just yet so we finished all the things that needed to be done. We weren’t the only ones that was feeling the pull to spend time with him because another friend did the same. When it came time to leave I leaned down to his chair and kissed his cheek hugging him tight and hugged his wife and left. I wish I could go back and hug him one more time.

When I got the call, I wanted to rush to the hospital to be with the family, but as just a friend I knew it wasn’t appropriate, so we sat and waited. Fairly good news came just before lunch they had successfully gotten him back and he was breathing. I ate lunch with optimism that his family was going to have their wishes granted and we would all be blessed with his presence through this holiday season. A third call came to say they had to vent him and his eyes were fixed. This remarkable family persevered through and after many tests on the following day chose to surrender him back to God.

The reason I am saying anything at all about this is because it’s a reminder that life is short, and we never know when the last day is. Don’t have regrets. Live each and everyday like it’s your last, because it could be. I believe this and tell my children everyday not to wish their life away.

My friend passed yesterday evening. The world lost a phenomenal husband, father, grandfather, friend, firefighter and businessman. I count myself blessed for having known him. We will feel his loss forever, hopefully the legacy of memories he left behind will comfort everyone and see them through this difficult time. Rest in peace. He has answered his last call, and has left to be with the father. We will see you again one day friend.



2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Jennifer Denys
    Nov 26, 2012 @ 12:22:30

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. It was a beautiful blog post and you are so right that life is short and one should not waste it away with regrets.


    • Angela Wray
      Nov 26, 2012 @ 15:22:39

      Thank you Jennifer. I am sad, but I also am aware of the delicacy of life. I am about to go into the funeral and can’t help but be sad I have say goodbye to such a wonderful person. He will be truely missed.

      Sent from my Samsung smartphone on AT&T


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